r/AmItheAsshole
u/Substantial-Dish8625
r/marvelstudios
When our kids were growing up, my wife had...a lot of rules regarding what media she'd let into the house. The main thing was that she didn't want any toys or stuff of villains. Any time our son got a Darth Vader or Joker or whatever toy for a birthday or Christmas, she'd toss it out and lecture our son before replacing it with something 'acceptable'. This was one of the many factors that led to our divorce, and contributed to why our two children mostly live with me (they spend one week a month with my ex).
Now, during our marriage this didn't matter as much for my daughter Sara. People don't usually give girls Maleficent or Ursula dolls (not even sure if they make those). But my daughter has a big fixation on Wanda from the MCU. She's never out and out said it, but I'm pretty sure Avengers 2 was how my daughter realized she liked girls.
Regardless Sara is 17 now and still has a massive Wanda collection. Every toy, piece of art, mug, you name it, she's got it. Which has never been a problem...until now. Because my ex finally saw Multiverse of Madness, and she knows Wanda is a villain now. And my daughter's social media means she knows that I haven't done a thing about her room.
My ex exploded. Phone calls, texts, emails, trying to sic her friends and family on me. Genuinely, I think she took my saying I wanted a divorce better than she's been taking my letting Sara keep her collection. Normally I'd let it wash over me but...this is clearly bothering her a lot. Like, a lot a lot. And while I'd never ask Sara to throw away or get rid of everything, I'm a little worried that letting her keep it all up could either be having a negative impact on my ex's mental health or be setting my kids up for a bad time at her house.
I recognize that my ex is unreasonable, but am I being TA for just ignoring her?
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Verdict - Not the Asshole
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